People Pleaser... Good or Bad?

So it's Computer class. I was known to be the most genius one in computers. I'd help most classmates to get their work done. However. I'd help too much, my own work wasn't finished, lesser free time, and sometimes couldn't help their work but I'd chose to anyways. 

As I scroll thru reels at night, I've learned this thing called People pleaser, which means in my own words, the person who would help people without minding their own business. I wasn't sure about that definition, so I asked ChatGPT about what a people pleaser means. Which is someone who habitually puts other people’s needs, approval, or comfort ahead of their own, often to avoid conflict, rejection, or disappointing others. 

Now in this case in Computer classes, I guess I am a people pleaser... 

Don't get me wrong. I am willing to help others cuz I'm a nice guy. Why am I nice? Cuz I'm... lonely??? You mates gonna be probably be wondering why am I still feeling lonely when you have family and friends. Yeah same. I don't get it. Why am I still feeling lonely? So.. anyways... I asked ChatGPT about the pros and cons of being a people pleaser, which is:

Pros of being a people pleaser

Some traits connected to people pleasing can genuinely be positive in moderation:

• Kind and supportive — often attentive to others’ emotions and needs
• Good at cooperation — helps maintain teamwork and harmony
• Empathetic — can understand how others feel
• Reliable and helpful — people may trust you to follow through
• Good social awareness — often sensitive to moods and conflict
• Can build connections easily — especially in new groups or friendships

Cons of being a people pleaser

The downside is when pleasing others becomes automatic or excessive:

• Difficulty saying no — leading to overload and stress
• Burnout — constantly giving energy without recharging
• Weak boundaries — others may take advantage of your willingness
• Resentment — helping others while secretly feeling unhappy about it
• Loss of identity — focusing so much on others that you stop knowing what you want
• Fear of conflict — avoiding honest conversations
• Low self-worth tied to approval — feeling valuable only when others are happy with you
• Attracting unhealthy relationships — some people exploit over-giving behavior

And that's what ChatGPT said. Now in this Computer class scenario, I'm sure classmates were nice and not that "cruel" as what ChatGPT thought. So people taking advantage or exploit won't exist in this school, right??

FYI, I'm not afraid to say no unless it's my really close friend. For others, including my parents, I would get slimed for saying no. Cuz I'm sure they understand me, and I understand them. So saying no isn't a difficult option. Now in families, saying no is a big no cuz they thought you're a disgrace to their family. And in others if you want to build new connections you have to try hard to earn them so saying no is a big risk. I remember when I was being me for too much I almost lose a friend for being weird, to this day I'd think sharing my music taste is a big risk to them cuz I would completely lose them again.

So is being a people pleaser good or bad? The answer is both. Good for lowering down ego, bad for your self-esteem. If you for example, have a crush on somebody, and in this opportunity that crush asked for your help, you should help them. However, if the connections were not developing, just give up bro... I mean, there's plenty of other nice people, you can try again in another time, i guess...